Issues I can help you with

This page is devoted to the issues that I can help you with, ranging from addiction to work issues. They may include problems that have been on your mind for a long time. Others may have emerged recently.

If, having read this page, you would like to seek my help, get in touch via the contact page.

How Therapy Works

Therapy involves helping you, the client, talk through the situations and people that make up your life. How do you make sense of the way you interact with people? Why is it that you react in certain ways with certain types (such as imposing bosses, or needy partners)? Most of the answers to life’s questions are within you. The aim of therapy is to help you to bring them to conscious awareness in order to bring about change.

In the first session we will agree goals and a time line. Some clients prefer to have an open-ended agreement while others prefer a fixed number of sessions.

Here are some issues I can help you with:

Addiction

This can take many forms from obsessive buying or gambling, to over-indulgence in food, alcohol, sex or drugs. If you are becoming aware that something of this nature is affecting you and you would like help to achieve awareness as to why this is happening and would like to work on dealing with your addiction I can help by teasing out the underlying difficulties that may have triggered the addiction and building strategies together with you to help you start to loosen the shackles.

Anger issues / anger management

Do you find your anger is getting out of control at times? Do you find it is affecting your personal and work relationships?

I can help you identify the underlying causes of your anger and come to greater awareness as to what is happening. We can also deal with the current issues using strategies to reduce the occurrence and intensity of the angry outbursts.

Anxiety

If you feel anxious about something specific or tend to worry unnecessarily about a range of different things, we can analyse the issues together to work out the causes. Anxiety (basically fear of the future) is a natural emotion, which evolved in humans as one of the most important survival mechanisms. However in modern times it is harder to see real physical danger (such as a lion coming to attack you) and anxiety can arise in situations in which a different response would do as well if not better. I can help you unpick what is a suitable response for you and give you tips to achieve a calmer, more balanced attitude to life.

Bereavement / loss

If someone close has died and you are finding it hard to carry on, it often helps to talk about the person you have lost.  I can help you by offering you a regular space in which to talk. You will be able to talk with someone who is not going to judge you for how you feel. There is no “normal” response to bereavement and I would help you deal with your loss in your own way. This may also apply in the case of the loss of a pet.

Similar feelings may arise if you lose a long-term job or if a relationship breaks down. In any situation of loss you may find yourself becoming irritable, angry or sad. You may suffer from loss of sleep, appetite or even concentration. Talking with a counsellor may help and I can offer strategies for combatting these problems too.

Confidence issues

When you lack confidence this may have a knock on effect in various areas of your life. It may affect your relationships as well as your work and your ability to face different situations. We can develop greater awareness of what is behind your confidence problems and together devise confidence building strategies.

Couples / Relationship issues

If you are going through a difficult time with your partner, it can often be helpful to try couple counselling. This provides an arena in which both parties can have a calm space in which to air their grievances. My goal would be to ensure that both have an equal say and each be assisted to listen to the other. I would also be keen to help you see the positives in the relationship and help both sides understand where the other is coming from in terms of family background as well as other environmental influences from their pasts and presents.

Depression / depressive disorders

If you are suffering from low mood, lack of sleep, poor concentration and irritability there may be underlying depression. It has been shown that counselling is at least as effective as anti-depressants for mild to moderate depression. Talking about your problems can help. We can also look at what is behind it as well as developing successful ways to combat it.

General counselling

Sometimes we are afflicted with problems which seem “crazy” and we feel that no-one else could possibly feel the same way. In these situations it is often helpful to talk with a trained counsellor. After sharing their thoughts and feelings many begin to realise that it is acceptable to have certain “intrusive thoughts”. If you are not sure if you need counselling, please give me a call and we could set up an initial consultation. Issues I can help you with are as varied as the number of people on the planet(!) as everyone is slightly different.

Self esteem issues

If you constantly put yourself down or find it hard to accept compliments you may have low self esteem. I can help you by working with you to find out why your self esteem has lowered. We can then use this new awareness to assist you to regain confidence in yourself. We all possess it at birth and it is possible to re-ignite it at times particularly in specific situations.

Men’s issues

There can be a lot of pressure on men to perform in intimate situations. This  can lead to premature ejaculation (PE) or loss of erection (erectile dysfunction). There may be other issues I can help you with in your relationship, particularly on starting a family. Sometimes men can feel isolated and angry as a result.

If you feel that there are issues I can help you with in your relationship, which you would like to address,  we can attempt together to uncover the likely causes and find ways to tackle the problem.

Panic attacks

Panic attacks arise from an excess of adrenalin in the body and may give rise to heightened anxiety. I can help you understand why this is happening to you and help you find ways of dealing with the symptoms when they occur. We can also look at ways of reducing the levels of adrenalin and other hormones in your body by working with you to examine and combat the underlying causes.

Self harm / suicidal thoughts

If you have self-harmed you may feel confused and upset. Why did it happen and will you do it again? Talking through your feelings at the time of the event can help as can talking about what is happening in your life to cause you to behave in this way. I can help you become more aware of the underlying difficulties you may be facing.

The same is true for suicidal ideation and situations in which you may think life is not worth living. I can help you by looking together at what is working and when and how to increase those moments in which life feels worthwhile.

Work issues

If you are having difficulties with managers or staff, I can help you by listening to you unpick the situations. We can then work out strategies for dealing with those people you find challenging.

Issues I can help you with at work include bullying bosses or other colleagues and other relationships. Also issues involving the balancing of work and home life as well as dealing with tendency to overwork etc.

We can accomplish much by looking at how you normally react towards difficult people. Then we can agree on new acceptable (to you) ways of coping with these people.